Planning a wedding is exciting; it’s a happy time for you as a couple, and the start of your next chapter together. But… it can be a little bit stressful too, and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed with colour schemes and decor and seating plans. We’ve had 10 years in the wedding industry now, so today we’re sharing our top 5 tips to overcome the wedding planning stress…
1. Utilise your Wedding Coordinator!
If you start to feel overwhelmed with any of your planning, then please make the most of your wedding coordinator! At Honeysuckle & Castle, we like to let all of our brides and grooms know that they can contact us any time they wish – we arrange planning meetings throughout the process so that couples can ask any questions they have, and it’s nice for them to pop back and see the venue to refresh their inspiration. Wedding Coordinators are always more than happy to help – and you’ll often find that a question that’s been bugging you for weeks can be answered in one simple email to them, so you should really utilise their services.
2. Make lists…
Don’t you just love a good list? Take one look around the Honeysuckle & Castle offices and you’ll see how much we love lists… Not only are they a great way of helping you to prioritise your to-do list, but they’re oh-so-satisfying to tick off once they’re complete. If you’re in the early stages of planning your wedding, make a list of categories that you will need to complete such as Catering, Decor, Dress, and so on… then within those categories, write down what you need to do for each. For example, Dress – Create a Pinterest board to find styles you like, Find local dress shops, Arrange appointments.
TEAM TIP: Olivia, Marketing Manager – “When I was planning my wedding, I would write things down in the notes section of my phone – every time I thought of a question I wanted to ask our wedding coordinator, or if I had an idea whilst out and about, I would always have my phone handy and keep a note of it there.”
3. Know Your Budget
Did you know that one of the biggest causes of wedding planning stress is money? Not having enough, not knowing where to spend it, and not knowing how much things are supposed to cost are all valid reasons to worry, but if you know your budget from the beginning, it makes it much easier to allocate. Referring back to your list, set yourself a budget for each category – then add 15% contingency in case it’s more expensive than you planned. Ask around suppliers for quotes so you have a good idea of how much things are supposed to cost, and if you’re still struggling with your budget then make cuts where you can. A lot of our Honeysuckle & Castle couples have done a lot of DIY as a means to cut the costs – Zeyad & Carina designed and printed their own stationery, grew their own flowers for the bouquets, made their own cakes, crafted their letter lights, and Carina’s mum even made the bridesmaid dresses! It’s such a fun way of putting your own stamp on your day, and you avoid any nasty hits to your budget.
4. No Drama!
The second biggest stressor when it comes to planning a wedding? Family drama. Whether it’s your mother-in-law insisting you invite her neighbours daughters postman, or your bridesmaids’ arguments over what to do for the hen party, a lot of couples experience some sort of ‘drama’ during their wedding planning. The best advice? Remember the day is for you and your partner only, and no one else’s opinions matter. Of course you care about your wedding guests and you want them to have a good time, so politely consider their suggestions and know that they’re probably coming from a good place. But remember what you want, and don’t let anyone else’s drama spoil the fun of planning this special day.
5. Enjoy Your Day!
There are a lot of preconceptions about wedding planning, you may feel like you’re supposed to be stressed, and start finding little things to worry about. This doesn’t have to be the case! If you follow our other tips above and make sure you’re prepared, then wedding planning can be an amazing, enjoyable experience. And it should be! You’ll only get to plan your day once, so you should try to make the most out of every little detail.
We hope that our tips help you out when it comes to planning your own day. Stress and anxiety surrounding your wedding day should never be taken lightly, and if you’re still feeling overwhelmed with wedding plans or your anxiety is starting to affect your health – panic attacks, sleepless nights and so on – we would always suggest you speak to your GP.